Is there a mistake from your past that still haunts you?
An event that produce a gripping sensation in your chest or a churning feeling in your stomach when you bring it to mind?
Can you still feel the shame, embarrassment or humiliation? Can you hear the thoughts in your mind:“How could I have done that. I don’t know what I was thinking. I’m not sure how I let that happen. I let everyone down”.
If this is true for you, then you may still be carrying toxic shame from your past. It means you haven’t been able to forgive yourself and move on from this event.
If you are unsure whether you’ve let go or not of a past mistake, just notice how you judge others who make the same mistake. Do you feel the empathy and understanding for them because you’ve been there? Or do find yourself being judgmental and critical. If your reaction is in any way negative, then that’s a reflection of your own unforgiveness towards yourself.
And most of us move on from them. But when some memories still create discomfort ten, twenty or thirty years later, then it means that the shame or embarrassment that occurred back then is still playing out in your subconscious and therefore not only affecting your mind but also your body!